I've seen a lot of posts circulating about this issue. I figured that now was a good time to take my turn. :D
I want to focus on an aspect of modesty that is not always thought about: the heart. Most people look only at the clothes they are buying: how long/short the skirt is, how low that neckline plunges, etc. etc. But do we take time to also examine our hearts? I know I don't. At least, not as often as I should. ;) My desire should not be to "push the limits" with my dress and be as "stylish" as I can; rather it should be to honor God in both the way I dress AND the way I act.
Think about it this way: two young Christian girls are walking down the street together. One wears something close to a tent (:D slight exaggeration there. ;)) The other could lengthen her skirt, pull her neckline up a little, and buy a size larger. The girl in the "tent" is trying to catch the eye every young man she sees, talks and laughs loudly, and is generally being rather flirtatious; her friend, however, walks along quietly and discreetly, with a meek and quiet attitude. Which one do you think is more modest? I would personally choose the girl who could probably improve her dress standards. Her attitude and heart are to be a modest, God-honoring young women. In time, God will show her the areas of her dress that need work.
So instead of always thinking about how other girls are dressing, let's take a look at their heart. Do they honestly desire to serve God? If so, trust God that He will take care of their dress standards. After all, a God big enough to split an entire sea is probably big enough to move the heart of a women desiring to be in tune with him. :) As for the other young women: prayer works wonders.
And most importantly: don't look at others more then yourself. That's so hard, you know?! I certainly have a hard time with it. Often though, the very fault you point out in others is right there in you. So when you get the urge to judge, turn and have a good look at yourself. I know that after I've done that, I don't tend to want to look at others anymore; they seem so much better than me! :D
Until next time,
~E